If you need help urgently, talk to someone now:
- Call Samaritans on 116-123
- Text SHOUT on 85258
- Call the emergency services on 999
It can be deeply worrying to think that someone close to you may be struggling with suicidal thoughts.
You might feel unsure of what to say, how to help, or where to turn for support.
But you are not alone, and there are steps you can take to support your loved one and yourself.
No matter the situation, giving someone space to talk and listening without judgement can make a real difference.
Signs they might be struggling
Suicidal thoughts can affect anyone, regardless of age, background or circumstances.
You may have noticed that something’s not right. For example, if they’re not acting how they normally would, or they start making comments or jokes that suggest that deep down they are not okay.
Some signs to look out for include:
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
- Withdrawing from friends, family or activities
- Changes in mood, sleep or appetite
- Giving away possessions or saying goodbye
- Expressing feelings of being a burden
No one list will include all possible signs. For more information, see:
Asking directly could save a life
Asking someone directly if they’re thinking about suicide might feel difficult, but it could save their life. It shows you care and can help them open up and get the support they need.
You may worry you will put ideas in their head, but research shows it is safer to ask than to stay silent.
For most people, thinking about suicide is something that lasts for a limited time. With support, these thoughts and feelings can change.
For example, you could include some of the signs you’ve noticed that they might be struggling:
“Sometimes when people talk about feeling hopeless, it can be a sign that they are thinking about suicide. Is that something you’re experiencing?”
For step-by-step tips on how to start the conversation with someone you think may be feeling suicidal, take a look at these guides:
Taking care of yourself
Supporting someone who is feeling suicidal can feel overwhelming. You may feel anxious, helpless, or unsure of what to do next.
Remember that it is okay to take time to rest, look after yourself, and process your own emotions. For example:
- Practice self-care
Make time for rest, hobbies, and activities that help you recharge. - Talk to someone
Talking about what’s going on with someone you trust can lighten the load. - Reach out for support for yourself
Find in-person or online support in Edinburgh to help you stay well and look after yourself in our Find Support service directory.
For more ideas and information about taking care of yourself:
- SAMH’s Suicide…Are you worried about someone? guide includes help to deal with your own thoughts and feelings, and access support for you.
- Self-care and wellbeing from Suicide Prevention Scotland includes stories from people with lived experience and how they prioritise their wellbeing.
- iThrive wellbeing toolkit offers small steps and practical ideas to care for yourself through sleep, breathing, creativity, and more.
